Post No.: 1000 Furrywisepuppy says: Whether it’s at university, a new workplace, being stuck on a desert island or wherever – more than anything else that makes or breaks one’s time there will be the compatibility with the … Read More
Post No.: 0992 Fluffystealthkitten says: According to the average statistics (hence this won’t be true for everyone yet nonetheless it’s most likely true for anyone) – don’t marry young but do eventually marry. Even though happiness levels won’t … Read More
Post No.: 0986 Furrywisepuppy says: Our attachment style can affect our social happiness – secure types have a tendency to find it easier to be happy in their relationships compared to anxious or avoidant types. Secure types are … Read More
Post No.: 0979 Furrywisepuppy says: We can have different levels of companions, from close friendships to more distant acquaintances. Looking at just your place of work – workplace companions can range from mere co-worker acquaintances (those you see … Read More
Post No.: 0973 Furrywisepuppy says: ‘Focalism’ or the ‘focusing illusion’ – which is linked to ‘what you see is all there is’ (WYSIATI) – occurs when the thing we’re currently thinking about suddenly becomes the most important thing … Read More
Post No.: 0959 Furrywisepuppy says: Stories are about significant and salient events. These become the memorable moments in our lives. A story doesn’t just recall time passing, thus duration neglect is pretty normal – we don’t talk about … Read More
Post No.: 0949 Furrywisepuppy says: When we’re feeling highly stressed, insecure or under threat, we become more self-focused for the sake of our self-preservation. We may therefore pay less attention to those who need greater support than us … Read More
Post No.: 0944 Furrywisepuppy says: The two components of hope could be identified as agency thinking and pathway thinking – or a will and a way. When we’re full of hope, we act with intention (keeping our goals … Read More
Post No.: 0923 Fluffystealthkitten says: Being prosocial is a form of delayed gratification – doing something good for others now will increase the likelihood of something good coming back around to us one day. As long as … Read More
Post No.: 0899 Furrywisepuppy says: Some people – especially within cultures that value self-sufficiency and independence above all – self-stigmatise expressing pain by hiding their own pains from others, being self-critically hard on themselves, beating themselves up through … Read More
Post No.: 0871 Furrywisepuppy says: Try to take pleasure in what you get or have. Perfectionists and ‘maximizers’ – those who are only content with the best outcome – are often more regretful after purchases or other decisions … Read More
Post No.: 0861 Furrywisepuppy says: Some people’s comfort zones are inside an office or up a mountain rather than in front of an audience or at home looking after a baby (unpaid work is still work, and is … Read More
Post No.: 0841 Furrywisepuppy says: Stressing about stress isn’t helpful(!) This logically creates a vicious cycle. So we’ve firstly got to accept that a situation is or will be stressful if it is or will be. And we’ve … Read More
Post No.: 0826 Fluffystealthkitten says: Post No.: 0808 discussed how panic is often the instinctive response to stress, but a quick way to calm down is to take some deep breaths by inhaling through the nostrils for 4 … Read More
Post No.: 0820 Fluffystealthkitten says: ‘Past’ and ‘future’ aren’t aspects of the real world – there’s only really now… then now… then now… From our own experiences of reality anyway – there’s only one slice of time that’s … Read More
Post No.: 0808 Fluffystealthkitten says: Towards the same challenges/threats, some people panic while others don’t – hence it’s less to do with those challenges/threats and more to do with us as individuals, like our courage, resilience, cognitive capacities … Read More
Post No.: 0801 Furrywisepuppy says: ASMR, or autonomous sensory meridian response, is that nice tingly feeling around the scalp, neck and upper body. It’s a soothing sensation that can be triggered by certain kinds of visual, audio or … Read More
Post No.: 0788 Furrywisepuppy says: It’s difficult to resist anger or hatred (or indeed love, lust and all the other kinds of emotions and feelings) when they just come, and sometimes we shouldn’t. But if we learn about … Read More
Post No.: 0780 Furrywisepuppy says: Celebrity culture is a product of the desires and aspirations stirred up by capitalism. It’s like religion in many ways – from the worshipping of idols, fansite ‘churches’, fans bragging about or inventing … Read More
Post No.: 0769 Fluffystealthkitten says: We’ve learnt that under our command are our thoughts and actions. Everything else isn’t – like what others think, how they regard us, how well others do their jobs, their success, their habits, … Read More
